Family

A home isn't made by bricks, a home isn't made by luxuries it gives... 

A home is made by the PEOPLE who live there...
The love, the care, the laughter, the tears they share together...
Or else it becomes a PRISON HOUSE where thine soul is condemned to torture forever!!!!!

I sometimes wonder how the institution named ‘family’ came into being. From the subsistence level financial security it may bring, to the social security it can provide, to the emotional bonds it creates, it has become the basic unit of society. It is the building block of the society. It is the very foundation on which the whole structure of human civilization has been built.

‘Leo Tolstoy’ very rightly said in the opening lines of his famous novel, ‘Anna Kerenina’, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”.

It is the unhappy part of a family which is irksome. Why do people with diametrically opposite personality and intellect keep living with each other? How does a family end up becoming a mere social obligation??? Why don’t people choose to separate with dignity rather than torturing each other’s soul with humiliation??? It is perplexing to see that the man has been conditioned to suppress his true feelings since time immemorial. In order to be seen as ‘respectful’ in the eyes of the society, the man has become a HYPOCRITE. A hypocrite towards the society, which measures his conduct by a false ladder and  a hypocrite to his own self. From a beautiful social institution, a family has deteriorated into a social liability. And the sad part of the whole story is the impact on a child. The unlucky child becomes the sad victim of ‘misunion’ of two unhappy souls.

I believe it is very important to become a ‘complete individual’ before getting married. The problem comes when people look for that completeness in the ‘other’. In an endeavour to become complete through the ‘other’, most people lose their own personality and individuality. And hence mess up the very wonderful institution. Such an incomplete union can never bring any satisfaction to anyone. Wish to see much more complete people getting married!!!!!